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"We're not ready to be parents!
"But, isn't it her body, her choice?"
"We want to do the right thing."
"I'll go along with whatever she decides."
These are some of the comments we hear every day
from young men and women who come
in to have a free pregnancy test.
We're here to help you make good decisions you can both be proud of. We don't make any money off of your decision. We just want you to have all the information you need to make a fully informed decision. And we want to let you know there is support for you, whatever decision you ultimately make.
So you think she may be pregnant? |
Here's some quick advice that may benefit you both right now... |
| The Dos |
1. Listen. The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about. |
2. Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, the baby needs you too. |
| 3. Talk about it - not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress. |
4. Gather all the facts. Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you both can make the best decision for everyone. Remember, you have time to study your options, the baby isn't coming tomorrow or even next week. |
5. Express yourself honestly. It's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she's not alone. |
The Don'ts |
1. Don't bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly. |
| 2. Don't pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team. |
3. Don't forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts. |